WOUNDS FROM A FRIEND                                        Proverbs 27:5-10

And thou shalt have goats’ milk enough for thy food, for the food of thy household, and for the maintenance for thy maidens.  (v6)

Charles Lowery complained to his friend about lower back pain. He was seeking a Sympathetic ear, but what he got was an honest assessment. His friend told him, “I didn’t think your back is your problem, it’s your stomach. Your stomach is so big it’s pulling on your back.” In his column for REV 1  Magazine, Charles shared that he resisted the temptation to be offended. He lost the weight and his back problem went away. Charles recognized that “Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted” (Proverbs 22:5-6) The trouble is that so often we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism, for truth hurts. It bruises our ego, makes us uncomfortable, and calls for change.

True friends don’t find peace in hurting us. Rather they love us too much to deceive us. They are people who, with loving courage, point what we may already know but find hard to truly accept and live by. They tell us not only what we like to hear but also what we need to hear. Solomon honoured such friendship in his proverbs. Jesus went further – He endured the wounds of our rejection, not only to tell us the truth about ourselves but to show us how much we are loved.  

Think of a time when a friend said something honest that’s caused you pain. Did it benefit you? Is it wise to accept everything our friends tell us? (Meditate on it)


A friend is one who can tell you the truth in love. (ODB)

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