STOP BLAMING OTHERS And Accept Responsibility (1) Genesis 3:1-24
The man said, “The woman you put here with me — she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” (v12)
The story of Adam and Eve’s failure teaches us two import lessons about God: (1) He won’t accept your excuses (2) He won’t allow you blame other people. He insists that you take responsibility for yourself. And until you do, He can’t bless you like He desires. That means you must make a choice to stop lying in the dumpster of past mistakes – your own, and other peoples. You must focus on where you’re going and what you’d like to see happen rather than having your eyes glued to the rearview, looking back at what was done and who did it. It’s time to take back your power! How? (a) Declare “time out” when it comes to blaming (b) Define what success look like for you and specify what you want to see happen. (c) Delegate “who’ll do what” in order to make it happen, and reward the people who help you toward a brighter future. (d) Realize that deliverable goals are goals that are attainable. Relationships in trouble desperately need good news, so develop some achievable goals that give everyone something to celebrate. It doesn’t have to be the ultimate goals that’ll win the war, but small successes that indicate you’re winning some battles. This game plan gives power back to the individual who needs to see progress. It distracts you from blame-fixing and gives you guidelines for what’s productive. It takes the power away from dwelling in the past, where none of us has the ability to undo what was done no matter who is to blame. And it’s a constructive effort, as opposed to one that’s destructive. (TWFT)
PRAYER LINE: Father, please give me self-control through Your Holy Spirit when I am tempted to retaliate with words
A soft answer has often been the means of breaking a hard heart.